So, men need to have some guidelines and women should also take note of the Book of Proverbs as to what constitutes a good woman. I'm going to review the verses in Proverbs that relate to what a good woman would be like and I would be interested if there are any of these kind of women out there. All verses are from the Geneva Bible starting at Chapter 31: 10-31
Who shall find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above the pearls.
A virtuous woman is almost impossible to find, but I know they exist somewhere. Ladies, this is a good reason not to have sex before marriage. You devalue yourself by having sex without the benefit and the anchor of marriage. Now, virtue includes a lot of other things besides sex, but in today's culture, sex before marriage is an absolute disaster upon the family and society in general. Men, if you want a great wife, don't expect the person you're dating to have sex with you before marriage. You will destroy the relationship, and I have seen the bad results people get from it. Ladies, your value as a woman goes way up when you exercise good virtues. This is the standard you should be achieving, and not the stupid things you learn in state schools.
The heart of her husband trusteth in her, and he shall have no need of spoil.
All men need to trust their women in a variety of ways. Obviously, he doesn't want her with other men or committing adultery. The man will have no need to do anything dishonest to gain material things, and he will always be stable with the virtuous woman. But trust is so important and once that is compromised, it is hard for both men and women to trust their mates once it is broken. It is better never to break that trust, but to continue in a fruitful marriage.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
This is the value of a virtuous or good woman. She never undermines her husband and never does him any evil. Here, the trust is reinforced with her good deeds. How many men have a woman like this? If you do, then life is going to be good. You can't help having a great life if you have complete trust in a good woman who is your wife.
She seeketh wool and flax, and laboreth cheerfully with her hands.
I can almost here the feminists going ape over this one, but the fact is that women who labor for the domestic well-being of the household are happier and don't complain about doing their work. A woman's place should always be taking care of the home and the children, rather than being bothered by having to work at some corporation. All she gets from the corporation is a check, but she gets back a lot of love from her family. As we continue, a good woman is an economic powerhouse for the benefit of the whole family.
She is like the ships of merchants: she bringeth her food from afar.
I take this verse to mean that she does whatever it takes to bring home food for her family. Taking care of the household should be the primary job of any wife. All of this has been distorted in our culture. As I write this, I'm thinking that all of this must have occurred on another planet, yet here it is in Proverbs.
And she ariseth, while it is yet night: and giveth the portion to her household, and the ordinary to her maids.
How many women get up to prepare food while it is still dark? And the servants are also taken care of so that the women of those days had a very large responsibility to take care of not only their families, but she also took care of those who worked for her.
She considereth a field, and getteth it: and with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Here, the woman even does sensible economic activity. It doesn't say she goes shopping at Macy's, she buys a field and plants a vineyard so that she can early a living from it. Doesn't sound like the woman is being oppressed to me. This sounds like the woman is engaged in her business with very little time to get into trouble. Today, some women don't get their make up done until 11:30AM It gets better.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She feeleth that her merchandise is good: her candle is not put out by night. She putteth her hands to the wheel, and her candle is not put out by night.
Again, this is not a lazy woman who demands money but she carries her weight and keeps herself busy making her household a very pleasant place to live.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor, and putteth forth her hands to the needy.
This is a quality everyone should have as there would be no necessity for the state as we know it today.
She feareth nor the snow for her family: for all her family is clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself carpets: fine linen and purple in her garment. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth with the Elders of the land.
A man with a wife like this will always sit in honor because it is his wife, who he loves and trusts, that is every bit an integral part of the family. This is how men and women should compliment each other. Most women wouldn't think about any of this, but our modern culture destroys even the possibility of a strong family because there are many women who should be at home with their families instead of working for a corporation. Sometimes that can't be helped, but this is showing the optimal situation for a family. It gets better.
She maketh sheers, and selleth them, and diveth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honor is her clothing, and in the latter day she will rejoice. She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and the law of grace is in her tongue. She overseeth the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children rise up, and call her blessed: her husband also shall praise her, saying, Many daughters have done virtuously: but thou surmountest them all.
How many men can say that about their wives? I'm hoping that some still can. But the problem is our whole western culture is almost totally corrupted. Men and women have such low expectations of each other, that this kind of living standard described in these verses is almost impossible to achieve without a complete change of heart by a great many people. Notice how she does not "eat the bread of idleness..", in other words, she doesn't sit at home watching Ophra and eating Bon Bons.
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vanity: but a woman that feareth the Lord shall be praised. Give her the fruit of her hnds, and let her own works praise her in the gates.
The value of a woman like this is self evident and it needs no other explanation or validation. The profit from her works speaks for itself. Beauty can indeed be vain but a woman who respects the power of God and keeps his commandments is a treasure far above anything I have seen or witnessed in all of the days of my life.
Men and women really need to rethink everything. The normal culture is "unsustainable" and it will lead to a complete moral decay never before seen in history. I think we're on the brink of something really bad and it will be because of the evil everyone has committed with the vengeance coming from God. It isn't going to be worth the price of not doing anything. Women need to give the man is rightful place in life or she will never experience the joy of having a great family. For a lot of us, we can't do much about it now with the exception to encourage something more fruitful in the future.
The current modern culture regarding women is satanic and it should be avoided at all costs. Our culture when it relates to men and women is a complete disaster and nothing short of living within the natural law will fix it. Men and women fighting in their marriages is not natural. If the two are really one flesh, how is it that they keep fighting with themselves? I've never understood the problem with the exception of the feminist mentality. It is probably true that this destruction has been centered around not only feminism, but through our faux educational systems. Best to simply separate from all the bad things, and focus on rebuilding upon the natural law.
Related:
Walter Allen Thompson has a new book called Natural Law: The True Supreme Law of the Land
Wanted to come back to be remind how lovely this was to re read. thanks
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Excellent.
ReplyDeleteGreat read, Henry. This article is very enlightening but also saddening because it's so hard to find a good woman today. Someone you love and trust who doesn't try to "fix you" all the time and point out your flaws. They don't understand that love is proven through acts not butterfly feelings in the stomach (passion). Women today can make an argument out of thin air and emasculate their men. With the society being as it is I think there's no more hope left in having a happy family with a wife that's supporting instead of critical of everything.
ReplyDeleteWell where on earth are they today? And i always meet the Very Nasty Stupid Ones Anyway.
ReplyDeleteI believe every christian woman imagines herself to be this Prov. 31 woman and many actually are. This woman is a warrior a woman of strength as that's what the word chayil/virtuous means in hebrew. But you won't find them in bars, corporate world, gym or even the state incorporated churches. It breaks my heart when i read this chapter because it is like looking in the mirror, and more, having a disabled son and being a caregiver. The exception is the husband in the gates of the city whose insatiable appetites i could not fill, although i was his prized possession at one time, 30 yrs later and still the same, i became a reproach, despised and rejected by the man who vowed to love honor cherish etc. There's nothing i wouldn't do for him even now in submitting to his leadership--he's a wonderful dad. So how and what more could this Prov. 31 woman do?--these qualities were/are spat upon since i decided to forsake all ties with the world including church to heed Yah's call to get out of babylon and to keep the sabbath/10 commandments. I'm no longer a commodity--i am now a liability.
ReplyDeleteSo while you men are looking for this Prov. 31 woman--what sort of a man are you?